How Can I Try To Convince My Mom To Stop Smoking?
I am very worried about her she is in her 30′s and she has been smoking since she was like 16-18 years old and she really scares me her coughing is getting worst but she won’t even try to stop ( I think she’s scarred she’ll not be able to quit)
Please help me
I will take anything
websites
patches
anything
I am only 12 years old and i want her to be around for her grandchildren someday
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June 17th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
I’m sorry but this is a real tough question. Make a promise to yourself to NEVER smoke right now! And also promise you’ll never date/marry a man who smokes! My mother died in February from smoking, she was 56, I was 17. I got married this summer and had a beautiful wedding and it made me cry to think she wasn’t there. My father smokes as well and I’ve tried everything from throwing away his cigarettes to making him feel guilty about how upset it made me that my children would never have grandparents (my husband never knew his father and his mother smokes too) All you can do is PROMISE YOURSELF you’ll never put your children what you’re going through, PROMISE ME!!!
June 17th, 2009 at 9:51 pm
One of the hardest things to accept in life is that you can only make choices for yourself. You cannot make anyone else’s choices for them. Life doesn’t work that way.
Talk to your Mom about your fears. Let her know that you love her and want her company for many years to come. Remind her that when she smokes you are breathing deadly second hand smoke putting both of you at risk. Even if she can’t quit, maybe she can smoke outside so you aren’t also at risk.
Ask her to talk to her doctor. He or she can prescribe medications to help your Mom quit IF she wants to quit.
Remember, tobacco like alcohol and other drugs is addictive. Giving up smoking is both physical and mental and the most effective combination is motivation with something like a patch.
Remind your mother it is never too late to quit. As soon as she stops smoking her lungs will begin to heal.
Not everyone can quit. Learn to cope by remaining in the present moment. Live and love each and every moment of your life. The past can never be changed and the future hasn’t happened yet.
June 17th, 2009 at 10:58 pm
All of the nagging or worrying in the world will not convince your mom to stop smoking if she doesn’t want to. That being said don’t give up. I smoked for several years and was up to 3 packs a day. I quit after an 8 week course (that is no longer around). I quit because I wanted to have kids and had it not been for that I doubt I would have ever stopped. This is an addiction and for most smokers it is very enjoyable. If you’re not a smoker you may never understand that. Try talking to her and let her know your worries and health concerns for both of you. She is not the only one whose health is at risk here. Offer to go to the doctor with her to talk to him/her about patches or some other method as there are many and get her cough checked out. I quit smoking Dec 3, 1980 and have stayed smoke free. I remember that day because it was long and hard but also gave me a second chance. I truly wish you every success with this.
June 18th, 2009 at 2:47 am
First your Mom has to want to stop smoking in order for her to be successful. She could go to the Dr’s and talk to him or her and decide which way would be better for her, meaning pills, patch, cold turkey etc. Good Luck My kids just kept telling me they wanted me to quit and that they didn’t want me to die. The Guilt trip and it worked.
June 18th, 2009 at 7:24 am
you cant really force someone to quit until they want to quit themselves. some people like smoking its hard for you i know. my dad smoked since he was 12 but he just doesnt want to quit. theres only enough you can do just try to stay away so you dont get secondhand smoke. dont keep nagging your mom every time she smokes, just tell her how much it hurts you to see her smoking.
June 18th, 2009 at 9:42 am
theres soooooo many programs and pills that could help your mom i would just get some quit smoking materials and leave it around the house. and talk to your mom about it and tell her your concerned about her and maybe that will convince her to quit but you cant make her.
i dunno why people smoke when they know it kills thems and makes them smell bad.
June 18th, 2009 at 1:33 pm
It’s very sweet that you are very concerned about her. I use to smoke too at a young age. I have tried to quit 3 times. I thought I could just cut back but it didn’t work. I even quit once for 3 months. Anyway, the third time I was motivated. I couldn’t afford my cigarette habit and my love for quilting and purchasing more fabric, so that became my new addiction. I was also in the middle of getting ready to move, so the new change kept me busy. The first two weeks were the hardest. I quit cold turkey, but believe me, it isn’t for everyone. My daughter quit by using Chantix ( you have to get this from a doctor). My Son in law also is quiting this way. If she is coughing, she is certainly doing some damage to herself. My mom was that way and now she has emphasema. Believe me, she wishes she didn’t smoke as now she has to wear oxygen all of the time. My dad died from heart disease related to smoking. I lost a very good friend and her brother as well as a boss I had all due to lung cancer. My husband and my sister in law both had to have their carotid arteries cleaned out of each side of their necks due to smoking. In fact my husband flat lined on the operating table. I have a friend whose mother always smoked and now my friend suffers from asthma as a result. She has to have inhaliers, be on prednisone when she gets so bad and it’s so hard to watch her go through all of this. So smoking not only hurts the person doing it but also the people who end up with second hand smoke. I regret having my own children having been exposed to it. When a person quits, their lungs can be restored, so there is hope for you mom before it’s too late. I realize this isn’t a website, but these are the experiences that I have dealt with others in life. My father in law even had to have a lung removed. It was horrible as he was so miserable for that last year before he died. He said he would have never done that and would have sooner died sooner as the pain was just prolonged, so If you wish, share this with your mom. I think experience is the best advice than merely telling someone to just quit. Also tell her that she will be doing it for you and she will quit if she really loves you. I know it’s hard so be supportive.