How Do I Convince My Parents To Stop Smoking?
My parents smoke all the time and my dad smokes like every 5 min and i hate it i hardly go out in the living room to go get something to eat i hardly even eat at all i hate them smoking in the morning for school its making me go crazy i cant take it anymore i asked my mom nicely if she can stop smoking in the morning for school she freaked out and said “your not my mom blah blah I’m not gonna listen to you” Please help.
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June 7th, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Give them some facts, tell them how you feel about it
heres a little starter, google can help with more!
Cigarette smoke contains over 4,800 chemicals, 69 of which are known to cause cancer. Smoking is directly responsible for approximately 90 percent of lung cancer deaths and approximately 80-90 percent of COPD (emphysema and chronic bronchitis) deaths.2
About 8.6 million people in the U.S. have at least one serious illness caused by smoking. That means that for every person who dies of a smoking-related disease, there are 20 more people who suffer from at least one serious illness associated with smoking.3
Among current smokers, chronic lung disease accounts for 73 percent of smoking-related conditions. Even among smokers who have quit chronic lung disease accounts for 50 percent of smoking-related conditions.4
Smoking is also a major factor in coronary heart disease and stroke; may be causally related to malignancies in other parts of the body; and has been linked to a variety of other conditions and disorders, including slowed healing of wounds, infertility, and peptic ulcer disease. For the first time, the Surgeon General includes pneumonia in the list of diseases caused by smoking.5
Smoking in pregnancy accounts for an estimated 20 to 30 percent of low-birth weight babies, up to 14 percent of preterm deliveries, and some 10 percent of all infant deaths. Even apparently healthy, full-term babies of smokers have been found to be born with narrowed airways and curtailed lung function.6
Only about 30 percent of women who smoke stop smoking when they find out they are pregnant; the proportion of quitters is highest among married women and women with higher levels of education.7
Smoking during pregnancy declined in 2004 to 10.2 percent of women giving birth, down 42 percent from 1990.8
Neonatal health-care costs attributable to maternal smoking in the U.S. have been estimated at $366 million per year, or $704 per maternal smoker.9
Smoking by parents is also associated with a wide range of adverse effects in their children, including exacerbation of asthma, increased frequency of colds and ear infections, and sudden infant death syndrome. Secondhand smoke causes an estimated 150,000 to 300,000 cases of lower respiratory tract infections in children less than 18 months of age, resulting in 7,500 to 15,000 annual hospitalizations.10
June 7th, 2009 at 11:09 pm
Been there, done that. I made life miserable for my parents. I lit money on fire and watched it burn and made sure my parents saw and when they asked me why I did it, I told them that it’s exactly what they were doing with them filthy cigarettes and cigars. I bought them a smokeless ashtray for Christmas so that I could sit in the living room and watch TV with them. Wintertime was the worst. They would smoke in the car and I would open the back window and freeze them out. If they threatened to punish me, I shut the window and got sick in the back seat. When did they stop smoking? Well, my mom stopped after she had a stroke and my dad stopped after he was diagnosed with diabetes, but neither of them stopped until after I was out of the house.
June 8th, 2009 at 3:43 am
Unfortunately, there’s nothing you can really “do” to get them to stop smoking. It’s a decision they have to make on their own, and it’s a difficult one because of the dependency some people have on nicotine. You can tell them it bothers you, that you’re concerned about their health, that you’ll support them all you can, but in the end, it’s up to them to take the step. You can ask them if they can take it outside, for the sake of your health, but like I say, unfortunately, it’s up to them.
June 8th, 2009 at 9:48 am
Go to a store and buy the coughing mask. Wear it around the house to protect yourself from the smoke. Talk to them and tell them it is affecting you. Talk about the health aspects. They won’t stop smoking, but maybe you can work out a compromise. Have them only smoke outside. Or make a smoke free room in the house. Show them statistics on second smoke, and tell them you don’t want to dela with the health problems, but oyu understand they have a right to smoke if they decide to.
Enlist your doctor’s help if you can. Often a doctor will talk to the parents about a ‘respiratory problem.’ If the parents hear from someone outside the situation that it is causing you harm, they make think twice. If not, seriously look at other places to live- like with a grandparent or something.
June 8th, 2009 at 2:25 pm
Until I was fifteen I went everywhere smelling like an ashtray. Yuck! I did all the nagging and begging I could to get my folks to stop smoking too – to no avail. One lucky thing came of it, it made me impervious to any temptation to ever smoke or drink!! I had lots of friends in high school that gradually began to go that way, but I didn’t go with them.
Do my folks still smoke? Amazingly, no. BUT it wasn’t anything I did or didn’t do. They just had to be ready to quit. It took my mom twenty years of trying before she was finally strong enough to do it.
At least refuse to breathe their second hand smoke – that’s one positive message they can’t ignore.
June 8th, 2009 at 3:43 pm
Geez, they dont have to be so mean about it. Write them a letter explaining that you dont want to lose them at a young age from any kind of disease or cancer. Tell them you want them to be around for your babies to be born, and you dont want them to be around if they are always smoking (not healthy for you or the baby..obviously), if you have to beg them in the letter, make them know just how much it really means to you for them to stop and how much they mean to you. Get all kinds of pics and statistics and anything you can find relating to smoking, disease and cancer and post them up all over the house one day when they are not there. They will see you wont give up. Atleast try to bargain with them and help them cut back first them to stop, cause I smoker that heavy cant quit cold-turkey it wont work…they have to cut down each week to succeed. I had a friend and her husband who went to a hypnotherapist, they paid $40 each I think and got hypnotized and they havent smoked since, didnt even have the urge. See if they would try that. Ask them why they want to slowly kill them selves, why wouldnt they want to stay around as long as they can to see you grow up and have your own family?
Good Luck
June 8th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
Well all you can do is plead your case. They arent going to stop until they are really ready to stop. Nicotine is a horrible addiction. I know because I smoke and have tried to quit a zillion times and failed a zillion times. Maybe you can come to a compromise because it’s really not fair for you to have to breathe in the even deadlier second hand smoke…suggest them smoking outside or maybe in a designated room that’s not a common area with good ventilation. Good luck hun!
June 9th, 2009 at 3:38 am
keep taking the tobacco out of their cigarettes when they’re not around, rub the cig. until i falls out and replace with instant coffee, they cant light it,…we did it to mom when we were kids, we also put our pics in the cover of the cig box.
also call all the hospitals and have all this stuff sent thru mail to them, in their name, keep doing it, info on lung cancer, …emphazima…just keep it comming.
How old are you?? if you are under 18, you can tell them, you have a right NOT to breath in that crap, and tell them to smoke outside or you’re going to talk to a school counselor or your doctor….JUST KEEP AT THEM
June 9th, 2009 at 5:08 am
That’s a tough one. My mom used to be a chain smoker until she got breast cancer, then she stopped. Maybe that will get them to stop. However, after 15 years of my mom quitting she got lung cancer. So was it worth her quitting?
When they are smoking, leave the room. If they ask why you always have to leave the room, say it’s because the smoke is bothering you. My in-laws smoke in their house and it bothers the crap out of me when we come over with the kids. Or my husband will come home from there and the kids reeeeekkkkk of smoke. God, it’s so f-ing annoying. But its their house and I can’t say a dang thing about it.
June 9th, 2009 at 11:13 am
AH you should probably just give them time. My mother used to smoke too a lot. Like every time she used to go in the bathroom. Then I would go in and the smell was so strong and annoying. This was about last year or so. Lately, I rarely if ever smell that anymore and I don’t see anymore used cigarettes on the ground. (There used to be a lot before). I knew she did it, but I knew she would stop on her own after either realizing all the damage it could do or feeling effects herself. So you should just give em time. But if they don’t stop, I dunno…
June 9th, 2009 at 2:56 pm
its really hard to do. but i did this and it worked. you “act” like your alergic to the smoke it gives of. every time they do it around you, you have to start coughing and rub your eyes. and she shouldent say “your not my mom” or Im not going to listen to you”. it efects you as much as it efects her. your suffering as much (or more) as them. thats called second-hand smoke. when they smoke around you and you breath it in. thats bad. i understand how you feel. my parents smoke too. i dont like it when they smoke but they do it anyways (sometimes).
good luck!!!
June 9th, 2009 at 9:34 pm
Ask them what will happen to you if they get sick or die from cancer. Tell them you want them to be around for a long time and smoking is really bad for them. Also tell them second hand smoke is 10x worse for you. And they are indirectly hurting you by smoking.
Pretty much making them feel really bad usually works, but not always. Its worth a shot. Sometimes giving someone something to think about like that, they will change their mind on their own.
Good luck!!
June 10th, 2009 at 3:21 am
make a slideshow of pictures of what happens to people when they smoke, what happens to their lungs, heart, ect.
make them both watch it
after , if that didn’t effect them, than ask them to quit for you, second-hand smoking is bad for you and other people around, for a present give them gum that makes them quit
good luck with everything
hide their cigarettes
June 10th, 2009 at 9:05 am
Sorry to hear that your parents smoke so much but hey smoking is an addiction and very hard to break. The best thing is just try to stay away when they are smoking. Maybe in time, they’ll see that you choose to be away from them when they smoke. When they ask why, tell them and maybe then, they’ll go look for help.
June 10th, 2009 at 2:07 pm
Ok, i understand..
If they dont want to stop smoking.. i would try and have them compromise with you. say can you only smoke when im gone in school. or smoke outside in the morning. not in the house,
and tell them if they keep up the smoking they might not see you one day get married or have a child. tell them to consider that
June 10th, 2009 at 7:08 pm
Seriously, tell them how this makes you feel.
However, your mother.
Dude, you sound OLDER than her. The “you’re not my mom” excuse? Teenagers use that. Not grown women with children of their own.
Is your grandmother still alive? Are you in touch with her? If you are, tell her to help you. Tell her how much the smoke’s affecting you.
June 10th, 2009 at 7:35 pm
Ask them to take out a life insurance policy on themselves with you as the beneficiary. What a shame that with all the evidence presented on the health effect of smoking, so many people continue, and with absolutely no regard to the effect it has on family and friends.
Good luck.
June 11th, 2009 at 1:10 am
I think that you should do some research and tell then all the horrible effects. Show them pictures of nasty looking lungs of people that smoke and then use the information to your advantage. Say something like “smoking harms me and I love you so I want you to live a long life………………………”
June 11th, 2009 at 3:53 am
You should let them know that you love them, and you want them to be around for all the important events in your life: graduations, your wedding, birth of grandchild, etc.
Also remind them that their smoke is bad for your health, as well as theirs.
June 11th, 2009 at 5:46 am
You can’t. My gf always tries to tell me to stop smoking and it just makes me wanna smoke more. People hate being told what to do, even if it’s a smart decision. Just let them be and pray that it won’t hurt them later in life.
June 11th, 2009 at 11:59 am
I think you should confront your parents at a time that convieniet for both of them. say mom dad I know Im just a kid but youve got to stop smoking. get them interested in things that take up there time so they wont reach for a cigarette. hope this helps
June 11th, 2009 at 12:55 pm
show them some pictures of a smoker’s lungs. convince them that u are sad and u dont want them to die early of lung cancer. try to get them on nicotine gum. present them with health problems that can occur. or throw away their ciggerets when they arent home.
June 11th, 2009 at 6:00 pm
Either make them feel guilty by smoking yourself,, or by making yourself seem sick and act like you have problems from second hand smoke.
Or find someone else to live with since they don’t even have the decency to protect they’re child from toxins and chemicals
June 11th, 2009 at 10:21 pm
okk well tell your parents how much you love them …..and then you tell them what happen if they keep on smoking , that if well infect your lung when your older!! and you dont what that to happen ???? and i guess they will proby going to understand???
June 12th, 2009 at 12:41 am
your parents need help. you need to sit down and have a serious talk with both of them. if they wont listen to you, and they treat you that way, then maybe they arent the right people to raise you.
June 12th, 2009 at 1:00 am
Ask them how they would feel if they saw you smoking? It’s hard to look at someone you love while they kill themselves. I didn’t realize this until I quit.
June 12th, 2009 at 1:52 am
If your young start smoking and make them feel the guilt that you feel!!! Tell them That ther are the example
Tell them they can not go by that saying”Do as I say, Not as I do”!!!
June 12th, 2009 at 5:36 am
Bring up health concerns. Do some research, print up some docs and say “look mom (or dad, or both), ive done some research on second hand somke and here…”. Or just give up… trust me, ive tried.
June 12th, 2009 at 10:12 am
just hope she gets pregnent so she’ll stop or show ur mum and dad pics of what it does inside ur body x this proberly didnt help though so sorry if it didnt
June 12th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
That’s a tough one. Tell them they must like slowly murdering their children with cigarette smoke.
June 12th, 2009 at 4:57 pm
I have the same problem. I give got lung problems from secound hang smoke and Mom still hasn’t stopped smoking. Good Luck